It’s been almost 3 years we live as a family, go through wonderful journey and full of meaning about what is love, family, and Allah SWT.
As a normal family, we are not always have only good times, but also a hard times. When it comes to the hard one, it’s really hard because we’re not a friend back then. We knew each other for a while and then decide to marry at the 8th months of our relationship. So, these 3 years are special because we just learn to know each other, love each other, and protect each other. We learn to build a family and make foundation from our each experience and background in family. However, we always look for Allah everytime we went through hard times, and I am more clear know about the definition of “Love your spouse because of Allah“. InsyaAllah.
There are some moments when you face the hard times, because you need to learn something new, you need to be upgraded, you need to be better. :) You can always choose your reactions, thoughts, feelings over what happen to you. You are in control of them. It might be hard at the first trials, but what I have done and InsyaAllah work (for me) is: identify what makes you happy and unhappy, then do more what makes you happy and leave what makes you unhappy. It’s important to be happy and peace inside, because it will show on your action and words. The energy will be different if you have positive mind and heart. Life will be much easier :)
If you are now trying to fix your heart, reconnecting the concepts and realities that don’t make sense, regrouping all the puzzles in the past, I can tell you that you are already in your way. You are getting there, where the peace of heart is. I am sure.
It’s just need a bit more love everyday in what we do for our family. And what I find very ultimate reason to do everything is, do it for Allah. Do it because Allah has granted you the family you asked for. Do it because Allah has granted you the opportunity of good deeds in a family you hope for. Do it because Allah has granted you the “perfection” you imagine of. Do it because Allah has made you who you are now, and you are getting better, wiser, more mature. InsyaAllah. Do it because it’s your duty that Allah wants you to do. And to please Allah is the only reason we live for.