Yang selanjutnya

Banyak hal yang berubah dan saya ubah untuk mempersiapkan kehadiran keturunan. Masih banyaaaaak sekali yang harus dibenahi. Mulai dari pola makan, pola pikir, dan pola rasa (mind-body-soul). Pola makan harus lebih dijaga dan ditambah sesuai dengan kebutuhan, pola pikir harus dibuat lebih simple, tenang, dan yakin. Pola rasa harus dibuat lebih positif, happy, dan pasrah.

Pertanyaan-pertanyaan seperti

“kapan punya anak? blablabla”

dan dilanjut dengan kalimat-kalimat saran (atau sebenarnya men-judge Idk) tanpa diminta sangatlah mengherankan.

What do you know about me?

Sedangkan ketika saya bertemu orang-orang yang perlu usaha lebih untuk memiliki keturunan, dan rasanya langsung “klik” begitu mereka tahu usia pernikahan saya. Kalimat yang keluar bukan men-judge seperti

“dua-duanya sibuk sih” atau

“emang ditunda?” dll,

tapi kalimat pengharapan dan doa seperti

“ya.. semoga segera dapat ya. Dulu saya juga lama dapatnya. Intinya ada di doa”.

menjadi sangat menenangkan dan menyenangkan :)

Semoga kita semua bisa berbaik hati ya dengan orang lain yang sedang berjuang memiliki keturunan atau berjuang dalam apapun dalam hidupnya tapi tetap positif! Kuncinya ada di tetap positif. For me they are so awesome!

Semangat semuanya. Semangat!

*Bagi yang sedang berjuang tapi kurang positif, either you can kindly advice them or leave them. Both are fine, well at least that’s what I do :p

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A bit more love

It’s been almost 3 years we live as a family, go through wonderful journey and full of meaning about what is love, family, and Allah SWT.

As a normal family, we are not always have only good times, but also a hard times. When it comes to the hard one, it’s really hard because we’re not a friend back then. We knew each other for a while and then decide to marry at the 8th months of our relationship. So, these 3 years are special because we just learn to know each other, love each other, and protect each other. We learn to build a family and make foundation from our each experience and background in family. However, we always look for Allah everytime we went through hard times, and I am more clear know about the definition of “Love your spouse because of Allah“. InsyaAllah.

There are some moments when you face the hard times, because you need to learn something new, you need to be upgraded, you need to be better. :) You can always choose your reactions, thoughts, feelings over what happen to you. You are in control of them. It might be hard at the first trials, but what I have done and InsyaAllah work (for me) is: identify what makes you happy and unhappy, then do more what makes you happy and leave what makes you unhappy. It’s important to be happy and peace inside, because it will show on your action and words. The energy will be different if you have positive mind and heart. Life will be much easier :)

If you are now trying to fix your heart, reconnecting the concepts and realities that don’t make sense, regrouping all the puzzles in the past, I can tell you that you are already in your way. You are getting there, where the peace of heart is. I am sure.

It’s just need a bit more love everyday in what we do for our family. And what I find very ultimate reason to do everything is, do it for Allah. Do it because Allah has granted you the family you asked for. Do it because Allah has granted you the opportunity of good deeds in a family you hope for. Do it because Allah has granted you the “perfection” you imagine of. Do it because Allah has made you who you are now, and you are getting better, wiser, more mature. InsyaAllah. Do it because it’s your duty that Allah wants you to do. And to please Allah is the only reason we live for.

 

Menembus ke langit

Di setiap keinginanku, ada doanya yang menembus langit menemui Tuhan untuk meminta ijinNya. 

Di setiap ujian sekolahku, ada puasanya yang dikhususkan sambil menyebut namaku untuk merayu Tuhan agar aku lulus ujian.

Di setiap langkah besarku, ada ucapan janji bahwa dia akan meminta Tuhan untuk memberikan yang terbaik untukku.

Baginya, tak butuh tangga untuk menuju Tuhan, doanya sudah menembus ke langit. Melesat seperti kilat yang akhirnya mewujud kehidupanku. 

Terima kasih atas setiap doa, Mah. 

All has come true.

All has come true.

sleep tight, Mom

Sleep tight, Mom.

No words can hurt you now.

You are taken care with so much love now.

Sleep tight, Mom.

You don’t need to hear any negative comments now.

You are more protected by Allah now.

Sleep tight, Mom.

Listen to Qur’an, good music, and beautiful prayers from people who love you.

Be happy in your dreams.

Sleep tight, Mom.

Allah knows best for you, my beautiful soul.

I miss you, Mom

I miss your big smile

I miss the way you laugh at anything

I miss your stories

I miss your voice

I miss your attention

I miss phone call

I miss your text

I miss our activity together

I miss you in every corner of Jakarta, Yogya, Bandung, Manado, Netherland

I miss every single thing about your soul

I miss you every day, Mom

Get well soon, Mom.

When I have children

When I have children, I want them to grow up knowing what kind of trees are they’re passing .

When I have children, I want them to grow up touching the leaves, hugging the trees, and walking bare foot on a grass without shoes or sandals.

When I have children, I want them to know how the real shape of the food they eat; the spinach plants, the carrots, and all the kinds of peanuts.

I want them to grow up together not only with their parents, grandmother and grandfather, friends; humans.

But also they grow up together with the trees, plants, animals.

So they know

So they understand

That there is something big outside them.

So they know and understand that the plants cannot grow without sun and water.

So they know and understand that the fruits cannot be that sweet without good soil and fresh air.

So they know and understand that they have to preserve the environment; the water, the air, the soil.

When I have children, I want them to not only understand what math is or science or english.

I want them to have all that knowledge and still be humble because they know that they are nobody without their parents, family, friends, nature, and something bigger than them.